There is obviously a lot we could be looking for while on a date. But if we are looking to find a long-term partner, some of the things that would be most beneficial to know–some things that would determine if our life in the future with them would be much happier or much sadder–are the hardest to find out. We would love to know how emotionally mature someone is, because that would have a huge effect on any future relationship with them. We would love to know if someone is going to appear one way but be completely different after a year or two. And we would love to know–which is the hardest to find out–how someone will grow over time. Because in a long-term relationship, it is not about having zero flaws or a non-existent dark side that matters; we all have it. Rather, it is the ability to grow and grow together that is the basis for finding fulfillment with one other.
What to Look For on a Date
What to Look For on a Date
What to Look For on a Date
There is obviously a lot we could be looking for while on a date. But if we are looking to find a long-term partner, some of the things that would be most beneficial to know–some things that would determine if our life in the future with them would be much happier or much sadder–are the hardest to find out. We would love to know how emotionally mature someone is, because that would have a huge effect on any future relationship with them. We would love to know if someone is going to appear one way but be completely different after a year or two. And we would love to know–which is the hardest to find out–how someone will grow over time. Because in a long-term relationship, it is not about having zero flaws or a non-existent dark side that matters; we all have it. Rather, it is the ability to grow and grow together that is the basis for finding fulfillment with one other.